1. Get Out of Your Own Way

As Jay Stolar showed us, so many times we just have to get out of our own way. It’s so easy to talk ourselves out of a great idea. Or, even worse, we allow ourselves to give into beliefs that we’re not good enough.

That the people we admire are someone superhuman.

When the truth is, the world was made up by people that were no smarter than us and we can change it.

So, take a look at your actions and reactions and ask yourself, are you getting in your own way?

Stop getting in your own way and let your inner hero out.

2. Self-Limiting Beliefs

Everything in the research books says that I should not be successful.

I’m adopted.
Was raised in a poor family with parents who didn’t go college.
And had an alcoholic as a father.
From a very early age, I believed that if you put your mind to something, there’s nothing that can stop you from achieving your goals.

I know we’ve all heard that as a kid, but I really believed it. I needed to believe it to survive and thrive.

But I still find myself with self-limiting beliefs. Like I need another college degree or that Ph.D, or I need someone who I admire to recognize that my work is good.

These beliefs are totally normal. And all the people you admire have them too. In fact, they more than likely have more self-limiting beliefs because the ladder they can fall from is a lot higher so-to-speak.

3. Living Authentically

When I went to the bookstore the other day, I noticed that they no longer have a “self-help” section. It’s now called “Personal Development” or “Life Enrichment” or something like that.

That’s because the term “self-help” has become taboo in our culture.

I know whenever I went to the bookstore as a kid and went over to the self-help section, my friends would make fun of me because that’s where people who are messed up would go to get fixed.

Ughhh — what a backward way of thinking of it. That’s where people go who want to better themselves.

Seriously, if you want to achieve greatness you need to be open to help. You need to be vulnerable and identify your weaknesses.

Every top-performer that I’ve interviewed asks for help and looks as help as an opportunity to get better.

This is how you become limitless.

4. You Don’t Need Permission

Stop asking for permission. You don’t need it.

We’re raised in a way that we grow up always having to ask for permission. It’s gotten to the point where 16-18-year-old students still need to ask to go to the bathroom during school.

And if you know behavior psychology, you know that this type of consistent behavior changes the connections in the brain. Think Pavlov’s Dog. What this does to us as humans is that it wires us to ask for permission

If we have to ask for permission to do the most basic of human processes like going to the bathroom, how can we expect people to become their own bosses as entrepreneurs or creatively solve problems that no one has ever solved before.

It’s impossible to do something really innovative and extraordinary if you’re waiting for someone to give you permission.

Instead, give yourself permission to just focus on being YOU. This is your life on purpose.

5. Define What it Means to Be a Hero

Define what it means to be a hero on your own terms. Instead of comparing yourself to others who you think are heroic.

Consider, instead, to define what it means to be a hero.

For instance, I’m finding a lot of those I meet tend to compare themselves to and idolize a few celebrities who have made it big so-to-speak.

That’s extremely toxic and doesn’t do ourselves again good. You can’t compare your week 1 to someone else’s week 100.

5.5 Ignore Mediocrity and Choose to be Awesome Instead

 “When you want to be extraordinary, that’s within the confines of being normal.” @bhaesa

“I’ve always believed that no matter what situation you find yourself in, until you learn something from it, you can’t escape it.” @bhaesa

Let’s go over the pond to England, where Bhavani Esapathi helps people find their purpose through adversities that come in their life.

She founded what’s called Chronically Driven, which is a digital social innovation hub that empowers those with chronically debilitating illnesses, helping them connect and share their story with the world.

Bhavani

On this Coffee Chat:

  • Learning from a mentor: respecting other people’s beliefs and opinions.
  • Success isn’t dictated by your educational background
  • Successful entrepreneurs desire to learn more
  • How Chronically Driven brings invisible disabilities to the forefront of mainstream media
  • Positively affecting others’ lives through your work
  • ADVICE: Be persistent in the good work that you’re doing, even if you don’t ‘see’ anything happening.
  • Finding work that suits you and your lifestyle
  • Managing your energy – what you spend time on
  • Pro tip: Make a list of tasks that only take 5 minutes to complete

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Back in 1977, Billy Starr hopped on his bicycle and went for a ride. His mother had just died from melanoma and pushing the limits of the physical body helped Starr grieve the loss of his mother.

On one rather strenuous ride, Starr had an idea. He and his friends would make a weekend of cycling, but instead of just pushing their physical and mental limits, their pedaling efforts would go to raise money for cancer.

Starr had found a deeper purpose in life. It was now time for him to live intentionally and embrace it.

“I was an athlete. I wanted to merge some of the things that I had embraced as an athlete: the commitment, the sweat equity, the teamwork, the camaraderie (all of the things I had enjoyed about sport) and commit it to a higher purpose,” said Starr on arecent interview.

This year, Starr and his team over at the Pan Mass Challenge have set the bold fundraising goal of $45 million for Dana-Farber Cancer Institute and the Jimmy Fund’s lifesaving mission to conquer cancer.

Starr and his friends are inevitably responsible for the “a-thon” fundraising strategy popular in endurance sports like running, cycling, triathlon, or obstacle course racing.

What makes the Pan-Mass Challenge different from the many other “a-thons” out there is that fundraising is the core purpose of the event. And, of course, Starr created this fundraising model well before computers were in our living rooms (or in our pockets for that matter).

“But, most importantly, this ride, while being an inspirational physical, spiritual and emotional weekend, put fundraising at the center of the event. This was not about awareness. You carried a commitment,” says Starr.

Perhaps you have a cause that you too wish to fundraise for. In that case, here are five tips that Starr shared with me to have a successful fundraising event.

 “You got to do what you love.” @JeffreySlayter

“You only have so much life, so whatever you can do to create your own thing, get out and do it.” @JeffreySlayter

“That’s what it’s like as an entrepreneur – you have no idea if it’s going to work out and just put yourself out there and trust.” @JeffreySlayter

 

Let’s fly all the way over to Australia where Jeffrey Slayter now calls home. Jeffrey’s got a really unique background. Born in Hawaii into a family of entrepreneurs, Jeffrey eats, breathes and sleeps entrepreneurship, especially when he’s not surfing.

There’s so much I can say about this guy, but in short, he started up a bunch of businesses that have not only done a whole lot of good in the world – kudos to that – but also made quite a bit of money as well – double kudos to that.

His purpose-driven mission has brought him on the stage with Sir Richard Branson, Tim Ferriss, Tony Robbins – I mean, there’s so much that we could talk about today on the show.

Let’s have fun and dive into what’s got Jeffrey fired up lately.

It’s time to get real and vulnerable with Jeffrey Slayter – unplugged.

To learn about Jeffrey’s latest project, head over to http://www.thegrandinitiative.com/

Jeffrey Slayter

On this Coffee Chat:

  • “No matter what, persistence, in the end, will win.”
  • Creating something out of nothing
  • Ideas are a dime a dozen, but execution is everything.
  • Anyone can become an entrepreneur
  • Finding what you’re here to do, not what the world is telling you to do
  • Having a daily routine – eating healthy food, listening to podcasts
  • Jeffrey’s Ayahuasca experience
  • What Ayahuasca can do for your business (and your personal life)
  • The future of conscious enterprise
  • “I’ve learned how little I actually know, and I’m okay with it.”

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 “The most important thing that I learned is that luck plays a huge factor in everything.” @rogerwu99

“Being humble is probably the most important characteristic – whether you’re an employee, whether you’re an entrepreneur, whether you’re a rockstar – whoever you are.” @rogerwu99

 

Let’s meander between New York and California where Roger Wu divides his time. Roger is an entrepreneur and the founder of Cooperatize – an advertising platform that guarantees placements and at the same time will save publishing.

Roger’s special talent? Using story to captivate and make lasting impressions.

You may also recognize Roger as the bodyguard for the Prime Minister of Micronesia in the movie Zoolander.

Roger Wu

On this Coffee Chat:

  • A shoutout to Roger’s father, who was also an entrepreneur
  • Preparation is everything
  • How he ended up in Zoolander
  • Making viral YouTube videos
  • Roger’s vlogging tip: Do something different
  • “Nothing really can truly go viral from one guy sitting in a room, unless he has help doing it.”
  • What form of advertising best suits your product
  • Content marketing
  • When to use storytelling in ads
  • What Roger is learning right now

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I’d like to sit still and focus on focus.

Because here’s something I think you can relate to.

I want to do so much in my life. It’s like I have a thousand lives in me that I feel I need to live.

I want to do so much, yet if I don’t focus on one thing I’ll never get anything done. Seriously.

We live in the most distracted time of our history. It’s a beautiful time to be alive and I really feel like we’re living in a new renaissance, but phew…this connected age has me distracted all the time.

I get messages from all over the place and it’s not like I can just ignore them. I mean, seriously, once my mother learned how to send a text message, forget it — my world of staying focused was over.

Because if your mother sends you a message you can’t ignore it, right?

If I do, I’ll get five more messages by the next morning of her worrying whether or not I’m still alive.

Text messages, tweets, Facebook, Instagram — and now, wait…Periscope?

It’s never ending. And I don’t want to be unplugged because as much as being plugged in to the connected world makes it difficult to focus, it also allows for truly amazing connections to happen.

I get to talk to you, for instance.

I can speak with my mother who lives far away. I can literally tweet an Italian grandmother if I want a truly authentic Italian recipe. That’s amazing.

So, when it comes to focus and staying on your own path, here are a few thoughts:

 “There’s no way to succeed without failure. Failure is the only teacher of business” @meronbareket

“If we push ourselves to the limit of what we can do, our limits will expand, we will become better and we’ll see results.” @meronbareket

 

Let’s fly over to Israel – that’s right, Israel – where Meron Bareket helps inspire innovation like none other.

For those who don’t know Meron, he is the founder of Podcast Incubator – a social hub to help podcasters accelerate their show and connect with others in the world. He’s also the voice behind Inspiring Innovation, a business podcast that helps, well, inspire innovation.

Meron’s mission is simple: he helps others create freedom through entrepreneurship.

Get your podcast starter kit at http://podcastincubator.com/travelingcup

Meron Bereket

On this Coffee Chat:

  • A shoutout to Ralph Quintero of Happy Someone!
  • Mentors helping pave your way to success
  • Whose problem are you going to solve?
  • Standing out doesn’t have to be “different”
  • It’s not about you – it’s about your audience
  • Giving your audience knowledge and understanding will set you apart
  • “Do something instead of stopping because you’re afraid to start.”
  • Transitioning from working 9-5 to having a business
  • Podcasting and sponsorship
  • Paying attention to what you can help people with
  • Trusting your gut
  • How Podcast Incubator started out
  • ADVICE: Don’t be an entrepreneur if you’re not willing to fail!
  • Being surrounded by the right people

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I stare at a blank screen, my fingers hovering over ASDFJKL;. The cursor taunts me with its consistent blink, blink, blink.

Resistance… the plague which stops creators from creating, stops writers from writing, stops changemakers from changing, and stops entrepreneurs from launching.

Have you ever come up with an idea and felt such an incredible rush of adrenaline that you needed to grab the dinner napkin and nearest pen so you can scribble down the thought in your head?

What happens so often though is that we come up with these ideas and then just as they rise in a mist of fury, they just as soon fizzle as the resistance blows in like a trade wind.

What is resistance?

– Self doubt
– Overthinking
– Not knowing where to start
– Questioning your purpose
– Fear
– Feeling overwhelmed by responsibilities
– Time

My point in a shareable tweet: “Learn to recognize the resistance and say, ‘No, thank you. I’d rather move onward.”

“Life is better when you are doing what makes you happy.” @neuronsaway

“Our imagination is our most powerful tool.” @neuronsaway

“Imagination…is actually one of the building blocks of who we are and how we grow as a human race.” @neuronsaway

 

Sally Safadi, the creator of Neurons Away and a book that lately I’ve been obsessed with called Fill In The Space, joins us on The Traveling Cup today.

She’s an Acro yogi, and when she’s not practicing Acro Yoga, she helps curve creativity and inspire innovation with unconventional tasks.

We’ll be diving into how she wrote her book and the impact that it’s having right now.

Sally Safadi

 

On this Coffee Chat:

  • A shoutout to Sally’s fifth grade teacher, Mr. Crump
  • Sally’s book, Fill In The Space, which stimulates the use of the imagination and creativity.
  • Imagination as one of the building blocks of who we are
  • “We have this innate power to imagine and to create, but we don’t necessarily have the tools and the platforms to exercise these.”
  • Questions that we don’t usually ask ourselves
  • Not taking life too seriously
  • The balance between creative freedom and structure
  • How each page in her book stimulates a different part of your brain
  • Investing in yourself
  • What Sally is learning right now in her business
  • The power of Imagination

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My fingers were clenched and full of chalk. My right knee was turning black and blue. “I can’t climb it,” I said, barely audible, unaware that people were even listening.

“Yet,” said the little boy to my right. I looked over at him, wondering how long he’s been standing there. He continued, “Whenever you feel like you can’t do something, just add the word ‘yet’ to the sentence.”

And so I did what probably made me look like a madman.